Jim Collins taught me in his book, Good to Great, that good is the enemy of great. Many people believe that if they keep all the good stuff, it will add up to great, but really, it just adds up to too much stuff. So we have to decide. We have to say GOODBYE. These […]
I’m getting ready to move again. A part of me is super excited, and a part of me is sad. Recently I started planning my goodbyes; getting ready to transition. When you can, it really helps to invest the time to transition well. First it helps to research the new location before you move. Can
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Your relationship with yourself is based on your thoughts about you. In reality, you are 100% lovable. There’s nothing you can do to be more worthy of love. You were born lovable and will remain lovable, no matter what. If you don’t love yourself, it’s a reflection of your choice to love yourself, not your
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Most of us have operation manuals for how we want other people to behave. They are very detailed and very precise. It’s a “book” of rules and expectations of what is normal, kind, and acceptable behavior for someone else in their interactions with us. Often, this manual is unspoken, so the other person can’t comply
Adults get to do whatever they want. Trying to control them is futile. They don’t like it. Haven’t you noticed? You get to be and do whatever you want. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. Even if someone really wants you to. This does not make you selfish. This makes
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Unconditional love is a skill. It means you love someone no matter what. You love them when they don’t meet your expectations. You love them when they come up short. You love them when they get it wrong. When we remember that contrast is part of the human experience, we stop using it as an
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How can we get better at loving and being loved? If you can answer this, you own the most valuable secret. Love is always the best option. Love feels great. Withholding love feels terrible. Love is for YOU, not the other person. Love always has a good result. Love never hurts. Lack of love never
Your relationship with anyone is dependent on your thoughts about them. Many of you will say your thoughts about them are dependent on what they do and how they behave, but that isn’t it. Your thoughts about them will be dependent on your expectations of them and how well they meet those expectations. You can’t
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Holidays are usually associated with happy memories, but sometimes the holidays can make one reflective, lonely, and even depressed. Regardless whether that is you or not, I find myself at this time of year often thinking about people needlessly suffering, and steps one can take to end it. Pain comes from events, such as the
It’s that time of year again, when I’m thinking of what to get others, and also of what I’d like to receive. I’ll admit to searching online for gift ideas, where I was immediately bombarded with photos of the perfect things, wrapped perfectly. For about a second it made me feel inspired, and then it
Last night I went with my daughter to see The Christmas Carol production at her school. It was amazing. They scripted it in vignettes that you walked through in different parts of the school, which brought the audience into the story. On the way home, my daughter told me that she didn’t know Dickens’ classic
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With the holidays coming, some of us will be spending time with our family, which can be challenging at times. Some of us will be dealing with parents who don’t support our decisions, or siblings who can be jealous, partners who would rather be anywhere but around family, people who don’t follow the routines we’ve
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