Your relationship with yourself is based on your thoughts about you.
In reality, you are 100% lovable. There’s nothing you can do to be more worthy of love. You were born lovable and will remain lovable, no matter what.
If you don’t love yourself, it’s a reflection of your choice to love yourself, not your lovability. You are the object of your love, but your lovability will be dependent on your willingness and capacity to love yourself unconditionally.
How you treat yourself is a reflection of your thoughts about yourself. Having an amazing relationship with yourself is simply a commitment to think awesome thoughts about yourself. Which can be hard, because our brains are conditioned to look for the bad and to judge. We spend so much of our brain energy judging ourselves that we have very little energy to love ourselves on purpose. It’s an unconscious habit that’s tricky to break.
If you think, “I’m amazing,” you are not bragging or being stuck up. Bragging is saying that I’m better than you. Thinking, “I’m amazing and you’re also amazing, and we are all amazing,” fills yourself up with love. We should spend more time talking about how amazing we are and less time talking about how we aren’t.
When you are living in a foreign environment, and feeling out of place, you are particularly vulnerable to critical thoughts about yourself. Some people struggle to recognize themselves in different circumstances. But we aren’t our job, or our ability or inability to speak the language. We are a lovable human. No matter what.
Your opinion of yourself can be high because you didn’t actually create yourself. You can’t really take credit for your amazingness. Whatever created you gets that credit, but you can take responsibility for recognizing it. That’s how you have an amazing relationship with yourself.
You don’t need to spend time arguing and putting yourself down. You can spend time loving, encouraging, and acknowledging yourself. It’s so much more fun. I highly recommend it.
What are your thoughts about yourself? Spend some time writing them down. Which of those thoughts are encouraging and acknowledging of yourself? Which are judgemental? Consciously decide to keep those encouraging thoughts, and let go of the judgemental thoughts. Can you replace them with thoughts that just acknowledge who you are instead of judging?
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