A yearly visit to the gynaecologist entailed a lecture about not waiting if I wanted to have children because of my age. I left in tears with loads of thoughts and concerns swimming in my head. On top of all the usual considerations about having children, were my expat concerns: my husband travelled all the time, my family was far away, and none of my friends here had children. I had shied away from having kids all this time because I didn’t want to raise a child alone in a foreign country. Was it time to re-evaluate?
I had a good job and a good life. I didn’t feel like something was missing from my life. Having kids felt like something I ‘should’ do, but would I want to be alone so much with a child? I suddenly felt like a heavy DECISION was weighing on me and it had to be made immediately. I realized that I had made it a habit to avoid big DECISIONS like this, preferring to just leave it to fate. I realized how fear was keeping me stuck, and keeping me from going for my big dreams.
When you’re making DECISIONS, big or small, you can’t just consider what will happen if it doesn’t work out. You have to consider what you’re missing if it would have worked out but you didn’t even try.
I think the worst that can happen is that you never try. If you don’t take action, you’re not reducing your risk. In fact, I think the riskiest thing you can ever do is to never give yourself the opportunity to bring your value and contribution to the world. Not trying would be a tragedy much worse than trying and it not working out.
In the end, I DECIDED that while my husband travelled a lot, when he was home, he was there for me. After discussing it with him, we DECIDED to try to have a child for one year and if it happened, it happened. If it didn’t, we would still be okay.
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