Americans value individualism. In fact, we are famous for the “American Dream,” which is a dream of individual success that comes true for many ‘self-made’ people.
We also know that belonging to a group can make fun more enjoyable and success more likely. We do not mind group relationships. What often bothers us is group obligations.
We join groups that serve our personal interests, and we remain as long as we wish to enjoy it, but no longer. This ease with group relationships makes it easy for us to engage in conversations with complete strangers but very hard for us to form deep and lasting relationships. Personal freedom is rarely sacrificed for the sake of a group.
Americans are often skeptical of group loyalties because we associate them with tribalism, fundamentalism, and communism, which we see as three main sources of conflict.
Other cultures may see that our casual approach to groups leads to problems. American individualism can make us lonely, rootless, and empty. Growing problems such as family breakdowns and stress-related illnesses show this is a concern. But we Americans still cling to our individualism.
Instead of thinking we are lonely, we just think we are bored. To break the boredom, we seek some new, exciting experience.
Establishing connections abroad is a big challenge for expats, and certainly affects their happiness. Whether you are an American abroad or not, how can you cultivate group relationships where you are living?
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