You are quite literally creating the RESULTS in your life by how you think. Your thinking creates your emotions, which create your actions, which create your RESULTS.
The events and circumstances that occur in your life are neutral, regardless of whether they happen today or in your past. How we interpret our circumstances and the thoughts we choose to have about those circumstances will determine how we feel about events. Our feelings will create the actions we take. Those actions in turn will create the RESULTS you have in your life.
If you’re getting a negative RESULT in your life, a RESULT you don’t want, then you just need to go backward in the process to find what’s causing it. What thoughts and feelings are you having and what actions are those thoughts and feelings driving?
Now here’s the problem. We are good at lying to ourselves. Our brains are good at believing things that aren’t true.
The best way to know what you’re thinking is to look at the RESULTS in your life. Those are your most significant thoughts. The great things you are thinking will be creating great RESULTS in your life, and the not so great things that you’re thinking will be creating not so great RESULTS in your life.
Yes, there are circumstances in our lives that we can’t control. But there is so much in our lives that we can control, and RESULTS that we do create.
For example, your weight; that is your RESULT. How much money you have in your bank account is your RESULT. Where you live, who you’re married to, how many friends you have, where you work, the state of your house or apartment, what your day looks like, what is on your calendar – those are all your RESULTS; your accomplishments.
Sometimes we discount all of the amazing RESULTS we’ve created because we’re trying to beat ourselves up for what we haven’t yet accomplished. Be aware this is something you might be tempted to do, and don’t go there. Instead congratulate yourself on the RESULTS you’ve created because you’ve had positive thoughts. Acknowledge the RESULTS you’ve created because you’ve had negative thoughts too.
The magic in this process is that you can start to understand that your negative thoughts are driving RESULTS that you don’t want to have in your life, which will provide great motivation to consciously choose more neutral or positive thoughts. You can also decide what RESULTS you want to create in your life and work backwards in the process to determine what thoughts you would need to believe to create that RESULT, what emotions you want to create to be fueling that RESULT, and what actions you will need to be taking to achieve that RESULT.
Take a look at a RESULT that you really want to create in your life. Whatever RESULT you want, you want it to come from a positive place, from a positive emotion. Ask yourself what you will need to do differently in your thoughts and feelings and actions in order to get the result you want. What isn’t going to work is to keep repeating what you have been doing over and over expecting a different outcome, hoping one day it’ll start working. That is not how it works.
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